You are Planning a Beautiful Wedding

Are you also planning for a beautiful marriage?

Most couples spend tons of time planning for one day,

but little to no time planning for the decades that follow.

Am I choosing the right person? Am I being the right partner? Do we need to talk about money? What happens if we fight? Will we always be attracted to each other? What does two becoming one actually mean? Do we want a family? Will my friends change?

Am I choosing the right person?

Am I being the right partner?

Do we need to talk about money?

What happens if we fight?

Will we always be attracted to each other?

What does two becoming one actually mean?

Do we want a family?

Will my friends change?

When almost half of marriages end in divorce,

do eveything you can to be on the right side of those statistics.

Watching friends and family members get divorced, your heart starts to sink. You may find yourself asking, "Why does this keep happening?".

Why does this keep happening?

Watching friends and family members get divorced, your heart starts to sink. You may find yourself asking, "Why does this keep happening?".

We spend so much time planning big, gorgeous weddings, but very little time preparing for the decades that follow that day. Let's trace the issue back to the beginning. How do couples actually prepare for marriage?

We spend so much time planning big, gorgeous weddings, but very little time preparing for the decades that follow that day.

Let's trace the issue back to the beginning. How do couples actually prepare for marriage?

Until now you've had two options as an engaged couple: Premarital Counseling Often rooted in religious settings and can be deeply meaningful... if it fits your journey. However, it’s not for every couple, and not everyone has access to it. Marriage Counseling Incredibly valuable for healing and repair. However, you’re just starting out - you’re not fixing something broken, you’re building something strong.

Until now you've had two options as an engaged couple:

Premarital Counseling Often rooted in religious settings and can be deeply meaningful... if it fits your journey. However, it’s not for every couple, and not everyone has access to it.


Marriage Counseling Incredibly valuable for healing and repair. However, you’re just starting out - you’re not fixing something broken, you’re building something strong.

You shouldn't have to just hope that your marriage works out. With meaningful conversations and building a strong foundation, you won't just hope. You'll know. You'll know that you have chosen the right person and you are being the right partner.

You shouldn't have to just hope that your marriage works out.

With meaningful conversations and building a strong foundation, you won't just hope. You'll know.

You'll know that you have chosen the right person and you are being the right partner.

Imagine walking down the aisle on your wedding day knowing you’ve already built the foundation for a strong, lasting, happy marriage.

featured On...

Winner of "Best of Will County" for mental health services 2025
In this episode of Founders Future, with host Milan Kohut, Tonia Koss shares her unique founder journey—from teaching and sales to ministry, and ultimately building Preaisle, a pre-marriage coaching business designed to help engaged couples create strong, intentional foundations before they say “I do.” Drawing from over 30 years of marriage and deep experience in communication and education, Tonia explains how her “Commitment Conversations” guide couples through self-awareness, core desires, and the often-avoided topics of money, intimacy, and spirituality. Throughout the conversation, Tonia opens up about building a values-driven, service-based business as a solopreneur, the importance of systems, and the challenges of marketing something many people don’t yet realize they need. She also discusses scaling with integrity, balancing impact with sustainability, and why holding your vision loosely allows room for growth. This episode offers thoughtful insights for founders building human-centered businesses—and for anyone who believes strong relationships are built through honest conversations, not assumptions.
Plainfield Shorewood Area Chamber of Commerce fun conversation contest with staff

Take one step closer to the kind of marriage that doesn’t just look good, but actually feels strong, connected, and secure.

Conversations Before "I Do"

An interactive video course for engaged couples

Conversations Before ‘I Do’ is a guided premarital experience featuring 32 intentional conversations across 13 essential topics designed to help you build clarity, connection, and confidence before you begin your marriage.

Conversations Before ‘I Do’

is a guided premarital experience featuring

32 intentional conversations across

13 essential topics

designed to help you build clarity, connection, and confidence before you begin your marriage.

Get ready for conversations that truly matter

your origin story, views & expectations of marriage, sacrifice, appreciation, friends & family, communication
The Five Core Desires, decision making, conflict
money, sex, spirituality
fun homework, downloadable workbook, certificate of completion

Your engagement season is short

This season is full of excitement, planning, and big moments, but it also goes by faster than you think.


Before your engagement becomes a memory, take the time to talk through what truly matters.

Start your Conversations Before "I Do" today!

This season is full of excitement, planning, and big moments, but it also goes by faster than you think. Before your engagement becomes a memory, take the time to talk through what truly matters. Start your Conversations Before "I Do" today!

All 3 Sessions, with Tonia as your guide along the way.

Ready to start your commitment conversations?

$347

Conversations to complete at a time and place convenient to the two of you.

Session 1: Your Story, Views & Expectations of Marriage, Sacrifice, Appreciation, Friends & Family, Communication

Session 2: The Five Core Desires, Decision Making, Conflict

Session 3: Money, Sex, Spirituality

Downloadable Workbook

Fun Homework to keep the conversations going!

Each session has multiple places to pause and learn more about each other.

Printable Certificate of Completion

Start today! Your forever future is worth the time.

Happy Couples Ready for FOREVER

Tonia just finished all of our Preaisle sessions, she is the best.

We learned so much and had / will have conversations we would not have had without her. We recommend anyone getting married to meet with her.

- Jordan & alyssa

Tonia just finished all of our Preaisle sessions, she is the best. We learned so much and had / will have conversations we would not have had without her. We recommend anyone getting married to meet with her.
Working with Tonia was such a wonderful experience. She created a space where we could have really meaningful conversations about the big things in our relationship while still keeping the sessions fun and relaxed. We laughed a lot during our meetings, which made it easy to open up and talk honestly. She guided us through important topics and helped us communicate in ways that strengthened our understanding of each other. Every session felt productive, and we always left feeling more connected and even more in love. We’re so grateful for the experience and would highly recommend her to any couple preparing for marriage!

Working with Tonia was such a wonderful experience. She created a space where we could have really meaningful conversations about the big things in our relationship while still keeping the sessions fun and relaxed. We laughed a lot during our meetings, which made it easy to open up and talk honestly.

She guided us through important topics and helped us communicate in ways that strengthened our understanding of each other. Every session felt productive, and we always left feeling more connected and even more in love.

We’re so grateful for the experience and would highly recommend her to any couple preparing for marriage!

- Harin & Puja

We did three sessions with Tonia when we were engaged, and it was one of the most worthwhile things we did during that time. It’s casual, super thoughtful, and all about real connection. She works with couples to help build a strong foundation before marriage.

- Brian & Brigitte

We did three sessions with Tonia when we were engaged, and it was one of the most worthwhile things we did during that time. It’s casual, super thoughtful, and all about real connection. She works with couples to help build a strong foundation before marriage.

Couples feel connected, aligned, and ready to step into marriage with confidence.

You feel like a team - not just in love, but in how you handle life together.

Want more information?

Check out these podcasts with Tonia.

In this episode of 52 'Til I Do, I had the joy of joining hosts Laura and Amethyst to talk about one of the most overlooked, but powerful, parts of wedding prep: preparing for your marriage. We explore: 💬 What premarriage coaching really is 💞 How Preaisle helps couples deepen their connection 📣 Real stories from engaged couples 💡 Why communication and self-awareness matter before “I do” Wedding planning is exciting—but what about the lifelong commitment that comes after? This conversation is full of insight for couples who want to start their marriage with a strong foundation.
In this episode, I’m introducing you to Tonia Koss, founder of Pre-Aisle, where she mentors engaged couples as they prepare for marriage. I’ve known Tonia for many years, and she’s been a guiding light in my own life, helping me uncover my God-given gifts and showing me how to use them beautifully. Her gift is exactly how she leads couples: helping them discover who they are individually, so they can step into marriage fully prepared and aligned. One thing she said that really stuck with me: “Most couples spend more time planning the wedding than the marriage.” In this episode, we talk about: • How she helps couples uncover their God-given gifts • The heart work that strengthens marriages before the wedding • Lessons I learned from her personally that changed my path • Why preparing for marriage is just as important as the big day If you’ve ever wondered how to show up fully for yourself and for the person you’re marrying...this is the episode for you!
In this episode of From Scratch, we sit down with Tonia Koss, a pre-marriage coach based in Plainfield, Illinois, whose journey is anything but ordinary. From growing up in a quiet rural town in Michigan to becoming a teacher, salesperson, minister, and now a relationship coach for engaged couples, Tonia opens up about the life lessons that shaped her calling. She shares the struggles, setbacks, and soul-searching moments that led her to help others build lasting relationships. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or simply passionate about personal growth, this episode is filled with authentic wisdom and real-life experience. 🎧 Hear how Tonia’s career path was never linear, but always meaningful. ❤️ Learn why understanding yourself is the key to loving someone else. 📍Discover the small-town values she still holds onto — and how they shaped her coaching today.

Your engagement period is short.

Once the time is gone... it's gone.

You will LOVE feeling connected in a new way.

Ready to start your commitment conversations?

$347

Conversations to complete at a time and place convenient to the two of you.

Session 1: Your Story, Views & Expectations of Marriage, Sacrifice, Appreciation, Friends & Family, Communication

Session 2: The Five Core Desires, Decision Making, Conflict

Session 3: Money, Sex, Spirituality

Downloadable Workbook

Fun Homework to keep the conversations going!

32 places to pause and learn more about each other.

Printable Certificate of Completion

Feel confident, aligned, and ready for what’s ahead.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the best timing to go through all three sessions together?

Each session builds onto the next. Do not rush through them (binging is not recommended). Complete one session, then give yourselves a week or two in-between to do the homework and talk more about the session before jumping into the next.

Should we wait to do our sessions until we are closer to our wedding date?

The best time is when you are feeling excited about your engagement, but not too stressed about wedding planning. Find that sweet spot after the initial decisions are made and before the last-minute wedding craziness. You'll want to enjoy this time together!

We already have a really strong relationship. Are you sure we need this?

Absolutely. Having deep conversations is part of experiencing a strong marriage. The strongest of couples will have a fun time working together through the sessions and learning more.

What if we don't get our sessions all completed before our wedding?

That could happen! Wedding planning is a LOT. If you still have part of your sessions to complete, make it a goal to complete them soon after your wedding. All of the information will still be relevant.

What if some of these conversations feel hard or uncomfortable?

I hope some of them are! That means you are going deeper together and are willing to get uncomfortable. Lean in and embrace that feeling with the person you love the most.

How do the sessions actually work? Is it timed or at our own pace?

You will be given access to a membership area where your course is located. You will set up a password and can log in at anytime, going at your own pace. It is created simply step-by-step.

The Conversations That Shape Your Marriage - All in One Place.

Don't Miss This Season.

You’re Here for a Reason

Don’t Leave Without Taking the Next Step

Ready to start your commitment conversations?

$347

Conversations to complete at a time and place convenient to the two of you.

Session 1: Your Story, Views & Expectations of Marriage, Sacrifice, Appreciation, Friends & Family, Communication

Session 2: The Five Core Desires, Decision Making, Conflict

Session 3: Money, Sex, Spirituality

Downloadable Workbook

Fun Homework to keep the conversations going!

Each session has multiple places to pause and learn more about each other.

Printable Certificate of Completion

You're not just planning a wedding, you're preparing for a marriage.

preaisle.com - All Rights Reserved - Terms & Conditions